For years, that we aren’t just our erotic identities," queer sex activist and author Amber Hollibough wrote in her 1997 book My Dangerous Desires. “For some people, gay rights and gay liberation do not hinge on particulars of sexual desire. Normalizing these things is a GOAL of pride.” “One of the core tenets of pride is liberation and working against cultural shaming,” wrote a user under the handle “Calling to make pride ‘kid-friendly’ implies that celebrating sexuality and kink openly is bad. “Kinks, sex, and protest are all inherent parts of pride,” wrote Nicolette Mason on Twitter. Some agreed with the original tweet, asseting that wearing fetish gear or publicly expressing one’s sexuality would violate the consent of those present, as it could make people feel uncomfortable or triggered. It contained a number of statements about the nature of Pride, with one particular remark sparking a string of intra-community discourse: “Please don’t bring your k*nks/fet*shes to pride, there are minors pride and this can sexualise the event."ĭebate quickly followed within the queer community, calling into question the place of public displays of kink and BDSM at queer events. Earlier this month, just weeks before the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, a Twitter user shared a since-deleted viral tweet directed at Pride goers.